Over the weekend, during a misguided (read through) on Facebook
updates, I found myself thinking around this update from one of my friends, “yea
yea am a Nyerian n proud of it .And yes you should be scared. Its true wat u
have heard about us” its basic knowledge that she was referring to the
infamous stories of Nyeri women battling men.
Naturally that led me on web searching tangent, as I did a
simple search on history of women beating men. Surprisingly according to Google
search engine optimization, SEO, they also make it look complicated and out of
norm since the first articles I found showed women as victims of battering not
men. But on my continuous follow up, I came to learn Abraham Lincoln was a
victim of domestic violence and 10 more famous men who were beaten down by
their women. That steered my guts to find out why a man should lose a fight to
a woman.
Of course most friends know me by my “silly and fun”
stories, but Am not doing this to cause a comic feeling. I’m not looking to
mock Nyeri women or domestic violence against men, also no one should mistake
me as a male chauvinist, I’m just looking on this fascinating subject because am a society man…and if some
differences will arise and spring up this matter, well, I’m all ready to laugh
at your feedback.
Beat versus Batter
To beat up a man is to use your two fists to beat him into submission.
To a woman beating someone up essentially means use whatever is at your
disposal to destroy somebody. Women will always pick up whatever they find on their
way to and throw it to you. Be it a knife, pot or television set. Men find this
kind of style weak and dishonorable in a fight.
We should all get this right, a woman using this kind of
style to beat a man shouldn’t be figured a fight where the woman win but a
tantrum at best. For those with doubts, I recommend you to watch catfights on YouTube,
and then it will sink on you.
Genetically
Scientifically, humans present sexual dimorphism, where
males are stronger, taller, faster (and probably more intelligent which to
avoid controversy in this case I choose to ignore it for this case) it has been
summarized that men are 50-60% stronger in average, thus stronger than a
stronger woman. So basically, it turns almost impossible for the majority of
women to beat men (in a fair fight)
Men don’t cry
I know many of you, like me, grew up around this phrase,
call it cliche if you want, but its one unwritten rule that all men should
value. Men are supposed to be bastions of stability; the rock in the middle of
a storm; unflappably cool no matter what the circumstance. So in a case of a
battered “man” (quoted because I still believe it isn’t possible)the
neighborhood not even the world should
have a hint of such a happening.
Why am I even trying to tell the known? Shouldn’t I just say,
fights are unacceptable, and if they have to be, with all due respect, men
shouldn’t turn the victim For them who are being battered (note I have replaced
the word ‘men’ with ‘those’), I wouldn’t mind to share few reasons why it’s
happening to you
- You are a real addicted drunkard “Man”.
- You are married to one old old woman (maybe she is trying to discipline you like any other any elder).
- Financially, she is stable than you.
- She is the run your home (breadwinner).
- You are one hopeless and jobless man.
- You are married to your fellow man if not a wrong woman.
To all men, can you man up! To you being battered, can you
keep it to yourself if you can’t do anything to about it. I read it somewhere
that when it reaches the worst for a man, clench your teeth as tight as you
can, apply some brain freeze maneuver to whatever pain inflicting situation you
are in and feign amnesia like it is not happening, then soldier on like the man
you are!
Elisabeth Elliott, one of the most influential Christian women writers of “my” time once
said “Stand true to your calling to be a man. Real women will always be
relieved and grateful when men are willing to be men.”
I pen down believing a man, a gentleman if you want, when it
comes to physical fight with against the heaviest and strongest woman, he can
throw the towel. Am sure reactions, views and comments are already running
through you mind, but this is my stand. It’s time to air yours.
